Quote Originally Posted by Satrana View Post
Personally, I find this whole argument irrelevant because I reject the premise that there is an obligation for the CD to tell his partner in the first instance.
On that point i have to disagree entirely!

If you are planning to spend the rest of your life with someone, then surely she has the right to expect total honesty from you regarding something like crossdressing, which could affect whether or not she would want to spend her life with you!!
Also, by the same token, i would expect total honesty from my life partner if she did something that could affect my decision to want to spend the rest of my life with her!

I think being honest about the major issues before committing yourself to and expecting honesty from your partner before she expects you to commit to her, would save a lot of problems later on in most long term relationships!!

Every day we all make judgement calls on how much to tell each and every person we meet.
I agree, each such person should be told as much as we deem relevant in our relationship with them and as to how much it could affect that particular relationship.
Most people i know in my life i would never tell, there is no reason to tell them and with many it would have a negative impact on our relationship if i did.
But by the same token, if i was planning to spend the rest of my life with someone, i would try to be totally honest from the start and would expect the same in return!