Originally Posted by SirTrey
To Me, the key thing is....Go into this relationship thinking of him as a guy, not a transguy....The right mindset is critical to a lot of us....Use the right pronouns right from the beginning and it will just flow naturally....But, since you didn't know he WAS trans in the beginning, you are already there with that one....Just don't let the word "trans" change your perceptions of him....See him as you did before you knew....and he will love you for it....Trust Me on that.
yeah, that won't be a problem. he is totally a guy to me. i can't even imagine him being a girl. even if i saw pictures of him as a kid, i don't think i could think of him as a girl or former-girl... he's just *him* and always will be
i dunno. it's just like if instead of telling me he is trans, he said he got in some freak ninja throwing star fight and happened to accidently get his junk cut off. like, i can't be mad at him for not having a penis. it's not his fault. he's still the same person with or without. only if we get married and start to think about kids does that really come into play, but that is a long, long way off.
following everyone's awesome advice, i straight up asked him if it was alright to ask questions. he was totally totally cool about it and said it was fine and he'd answer anything i asked him. like you guys thought, he said he was used to questions and was glad i wanted to know more about him. so i'm really happy that all worked out.
oh, also, we are officially dating now ♪ヽ(＊^-^)人(^o^＊)ノ♪
