Trying to understand behavior

[KellyV GG]

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Until we are able to even begin to accept this within ourselves we see it as a curse. And that cursed feeling will last forever until we can.

Thanks for that. Maybe I'm not taking it all as seriously as I should. It hurts to see someone you love going thru something neither one of you understand. It's horrible to see it..or anything..as a curse you are forced to live with.

The frustration of being unable to understand himself, and the crippling inability to even be able to communicate to you what he himself cannot understand, may be the cause of his withdrawal. That's what we do as men.

Thanks for that as well. It's easy to forget that. I am very in touch with myself and my own feelings so I assume he/she should be as well. I so want him to be able to communicate what ever is going on.

They've already been mentioned here. Joining this group and opening up to "peers". Given the thousands of folks here and the thousands who have passed through, we've probably heard it all. And/Or professional counselling. And/Or a local support group that he can talk to face to face.

Not a chance in the world at this point. I mentioned this forum and maybe talking to other people in his position which was immediately met with "so, you're saying there's something wrong with me!" and no matter how gently I try to re-approach the subject I'm immediately shot down.

As you've already read, we all celebrate your acceptance and the hard work you're going through to normalize this unusual relationship. And we're sorry that it's such a difficult exercise for you.

Thank you...I very much appreciate all of the help and support. More than you can imagine!!