I am one here who advocates taking it slowly. To me that means that once the CDer has come out to his SO, as fully as he believes himself to be at that time, he doesn't go wild and dress up fully every waking minute of the day. Or drag (pardon the pun) his SO down to the local bar while dressed. Or, taking the dressing into the bedroom when the SO is not ready.
At least not until the SO is willing and accepting of any of these situations.
