Karen,
Today is the first time that I have read your post and all the responses. I am a little surprised at the admonishing and lack of compassion from this forum.
I feel for you. It is not our place to judge you. It is extremely unfortunate that your wife decided to embarrase you by moving the car as well as spilling the beans to the clergy. I'm sure that you are scared to death. Hopefully, the clergy will be professional and not broadcast your cding to the public.
Right now you have one primary subject to address - I'm assuming that you do not want to dissolve the marriage. Hopefully after your wife calms down a little, she will be ready to look at this with an open mind and forgive you and for you to forgive her for outing you. I'm not saying that what you did was wrong but in her mind, something is certainly wrong. All I can say is good luck and let us know how this all comes out.
SheriM
