I'm sorry she cancelled on you after agreeing to meet you even dressed. I do think calling 6 to 8 times may be a little bit excessive, that might have scared her off now even more than the crossdressing did. Plus, taking the other call was probably not the best idea.
Do you dress or are you planning on going full time as Christina? The reason why I say this is because, it's not so much that I think you were being selfish in how you approached your date as much as it seems like maybe you were throwing too much at her too fast. You weren't just going to be dressed up, but you were attending a trans event and then going to go see a drag show. That's a lot of crossdressing happening for someone who hasn't been at all initiated into it yet.
If you're not full time as Christina, then it would probably be better next time to go more traditional with your first date, let her meet you as a guy and see that you're perfectly nice and normal, and then if it goes well and you hit it off, then discuss dressing up for either the second or third date. Still be honest and up front with who you are and what you do before the first date, but it feels like you maybe played the CD thing up so much that it started to feel overwhelming and ominous for her.
