If you're not full time as Christina, then it would probably be better next time to go more traditional with your first date, let her meet you as a guy and see that you're perfectly nice and normal, and then if it goes well and you hit it off, then discuss dressing up for either the second or third date. Still be honest and up front with who you are and what you do before the first date, but it feels like you maybe played the CD thing up so much that it started to feel overwhelming and ominous for her.
Christina, see! not just me giving the same advise. You were so excited about meeting her that your enthusiam could be construed as little to aggresive luv.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.