Telling the SO, Bad Reaction, Giving up CD'ing

[Miss Misery]

I think Georgi is long gone my friends.

Figuratively or literally?

.... she has spent 30 years thinking of her spouse a certain way and holding a certain view of the rest of the world. All of a sudden nothing is as it seems...one of those disorientating times.

I'm sorry Paisley but this "world shattering" stuff is too much drama as far as I'm concerned. When you're married for 20 - 30 yrs, you grow with each other (or are headed for divorce by now) to accept and deal with those aspects of your partners personality that you conflict with. The idea that a single aspect, like Cding could derail everything your marriage was built on shows that it was never on stable ground to begin with. To steal from Lorileah's comment comparing a long marriage to equity built up - the value of that equity IS the ability to accept and understand your partner's shortcomings and continue to love him/her ..... If you can't do that, then you never had any equity built up in the first place.

Denise,

As far as kicking a dead horse goes, this discussion has evolved into something bigger than Giorgi's particular situation and now is more about the SO/CD realtionship/why some accept and others do not/deceit .... Something that many looking tothis site want to read and or discuss. If it's kicking a dead horse then you can stop kicking anytime you want.