[SIZE="2"]Yes, thanks for the story. I think I should explain something, because most respondents to this thread think I’m talking about aesthetics, and I’m not…Originally Posted by ReineD
First of all, I never meant to imply that cooking is “girly,” or feminine, but one’s heightened awareness of aromas, or tastes, or textures, or colors may have a connection with crossdressing, since sensory awareness certainly plays a part in the latter. I would add “in most cases,” but I insist there is at least an appreciation for certain feminine articles of clothing amongst male-to-female crossdressers, whether the garments in question look a certain way, feel a certain way, or make you feel a certain way. You are a sensualist, like it or not, even though you may not even consider this “side” of the coin. I know, there are all kinds of MtF crossdressers, but I like to believe that there is a little more going on under the surface, independent of the clothing, which makes us embrace these sensual pleasures. If your “take” on MtF is neither sensual nor pleasurable, I do apologize for my generalization, but I think you need a certain amount of sensitivity to be a crossdresser, especially when you’re so eagerly abandoning your male appearance…
Please don’t think I’m an esthete. I went to the opera many years ago, mainly because the opportunity came up, and I gave it a try. I only related this part of the OP to point out the reaction of typical males the next day – to most men, going to the opera is a sissified activity, and I must admit I felt comfortable and “apart” from them, not as an esthete, but as a so-called sissy, existing in a different place where males and females actually co-mingle as equals. The reaction herein to this off-hand mention of culture seems to reinforce my belief that males believe in and cultivate a perpetual state of deadened senses, which happens to be the whole point of this thread. Of course, crossdressers can be like typical males who turn away from culture and embrace everything that is noisy and violent, or they can be shy, sensitive types whose crossdressing is just a part of the whole. I’m somewhere in-between, but I guarantee I won’t be all dressed up talking about male interests, not now, not ever. How could I break the “spell,” since I chose to enter it, willingly, for a specific feminine reason?
Since you may be reading this, Reine, I wish to declare that saying a certain characteristic is feminine or masculine is easy and convenient, but probably inaccurate. I think you’re the one who pointed out that these are human traits, inherent in all of us, yet somewhere along the line the more sensitive proclivities became associated with females. In that case, we males are merely trying to get in touch with these feelings, emotions, and levels of awareness that may lie dormant and be at odds with the accepted idea of masculinity here in 2010 – most men I know in real life would call a talent for sensory awareness “girly,” and thus unacceptable, for whatever prejudicial reason. The idea I’m trying to get across is sadness at the current state of affairs, where saying something innocuous like “I can smell the rosemary in the gravy” will set you apart from most males in the immediate vicinity, not to mention the officially sanctioned and accepted view of males in our society. The whole thing is a metaphor, get it? BTW – in case you’re wondering, I do all the cooking, since I do have to eat…
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