My fiancee is always trying to find things for us to do with me dressed. Im not passable, and circumstances require that I have facial hair. I keep telling her that it's ok, and that I dont want to make anyone else uncomfortable.
But she got an invitation to a private party for crossdressers, and unbeknownst to me, emailed the the person hosting the party and ask if we would be welcomed, explaining the situation.
Rather than simply telling her that they would not be comfortable with it, or simply ignore them message, the person emailed my fiancee and told her that I belong in a circus or freakshow and not at one of their parties.
I know a lot of crossdressers feel that way about me, but I'm very unhappy they that they had to take it out on her.
My fiancee is one of the most generous and accepting people you will ever meet and has many friends in the TS/TG community from her years in the D/s lifestyle. I think think that she thought that my explanation of how some CDs felt about people like me was akin to the faintly negative feeling that many in the LGBT community have towards BDSM lifestylers. Ater all, there have never been any comments when I've gone dressed to a D/s events.
She was ready to send these people a very nasty email and "out" their behavior to the community at large (her invitation came to her as a dominant female in the D/s world), but I told her that I was unsurprised by their reaction to her request, and convinced her to just send a polite response.
And we wonder why there is a lack of acceptance for CDing in the general population, when we can't accept any variation among our own sub-group.
It just makes me sad.
