Quote Originally Posted by JulieC View Post
My wife is involved in several activities/hobbies. I'm involved in several as well. Most of these do not share an overlap. With all of these, we make time for the other to be able to pursue those interests.

I think a pathway to disaster is presuming that a spouse should be the end-all-be-all for you, and if (s)he doesn't feel the same there's a serious problem.
I agree with you entirely there! It's crucial for both parties to have solid inner cores, and not place the sole responsibility for their inner states of happiness on their partners. One of my favorite pieces describing love and commitment is by Kahlil Gibran

Quote Originally Posted by On Marriage, from "The Prophet"
Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.


Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.