I don't recall EVER saying that someone suffering due to their choice in attire was acceptable. In fact I come out against people ridiculing someone's style.
I am not for women losing the freedoms they have when it comes to clothing choices. I am only wanting and wishing for men to have that same freedom.
You do notice how a girl can get away with a Goth look far more than a boi? At least in main stream society.
I do not just preach, but I indeed practice. I almost daily wear unconventional styles to my job. (my computer one, not my flying one, though I would love to do that again). I have even gone skirted with eye makeup once, which was fun, but one customer frowned on it...no more for that, at least for a while. Now, would a girl or woman have faced that?
But don't think for a second that I don't fight. I think I fight too much, too much attention is given to what I wear by myself. I should just be able to put on what I would like to wear. But when I venture out in a skirted outfit (sorry I don't like being limited to kilts, or sarongs, or the other "accepted" male items, to me that is like telling a woman, you are restricted to only dress pants, and nothing else), I can't help but feel I may look a complete and total fool. Would I think that way if men were indeed able to wear skirts as everyday choice wear?
Women in many ways can get away with much more wimsical behavior (silly things on their head, eg cat ears.) that if a man were to do such he would be ridiculed, or beat up.
As far as ruffled shirts are concerned...I would love to wear mine...and do. There is no problem with wearing such in an unprofessional setting. Peacock feathers....never really thought of that, but if I wanted then I should be able to. Just as we should be able to be our goth selves.
On that note. Do you think a male version of Abby (in place of the queen of darkness, as in the original character was male from the get go of NCIS) would be as well recieved as Abby. I mean a male Goth or the old school style (not the modern goth male that too me is a tad too...mainstream), meaning dark clothes, androgynous look, and what not. I don't think so. I think that character would have been written out quite quickly. Maybe I am wrong though.
Allie SF. I too do not want to see a complete blurring of the sexes or genders. But I think those that exhibit qualities of both or some of the gender other than their birth gender or sex, should be able to freely express it, without harm, or having their lives badly effected by it.
