Quote Originally Posted by arbon View Post
I did lie and it was painful for my partner. And I agree with her, it was wrong. It is scary to be honest about being CD or TG but I do believe it is the best way if you really do care for the other person. Sooner or later it is all most always going to come out anyway.
If someone asked me my advice, I would say go ahead and tell your wife before getting married. You're right. Sooner or later, it will most likely come out, and it's best to know where she stands beforehand. That's the ideal. We both know why we fell short of that ideal, though, and how hard we've had to struggle just to be honest with ourselves, much less anyone else.