MARRIED MEN
As an older CD/TV I try to stick to my own age group, plus or minus ten years. This pretty much is a pool of lifelong bachelors who are Gay, Bi-sexual Divorcees, and Unhappily Married Men. I've dated in all three categories, but this discussion is about the latter only.
I have been surprised by the number of married men whoapproach me, and say pretty much the same thing: 1. They have been married 10-12-15 years, 2. The marriage has been asexual for several years, 2. They have 'always' been curious about crossdressers/transvestites, and 3. Are willing to actually spend cash on me for drinks, dinner, and (if things click just right) a nice hotel room. Orientation-wise, they are different from Admirers I've met at Alternate Clubs, but I'm not sure I could define that feeling in less than a thousand words, and even then it would be imperfect.
I've dated a number of such men, have been intimate with a significant percentage of them, and have even grown fond of some.
I was. and still am to some extent, ethically troubled by the situation. I have reached a point where I justify it on the basis that whatever was wrong with the marriages had happened long before I was in the picture. Also, I am really only interested in good times, fun and satisfying sex, so I have no intent to disrupt the marriages any further.
The downside factors are the aforementioned moral ambiguity, and the fact that the relationship isn't going anywhere.
The upside factors are that the relationship isn't going anywhere, so I don't have to be worried about pleasing and/or not-offending a significant other, and that these guys tend to treat me like a real woman, and not like another man.
