OMG, what tripe!!!
Please, please, please, will pre-ops STOP talking like they know everything about what post-op is all about.
You DON'T know what it's all about. You don't. No one is attacking your sense of woman hood. We all know you feel that just as strongly as you think you do.
Post-op is something wonderful and beautiful. It does not need to be called elitist, nor holier than thou.
There are a significant number of gatekeepers (all male, I might venture to guess) who make statements like "a steady stream" of transexuals wanting to get sewn up. What a pile of unholy bull twaddle.
This whole business started several months ago when Kate stated that the REAL job of becoming a woman STARTS with surgery. She happened to be right. Ask ANY transgendered woman. This does NOT demean any pre-op nor their personal feelings about their gender identity. It just states a FACT. This is a fact you cannot know unless you:
A. Believe a post-op.
B. Experience it for yourself.
If indeed you do have surgery you will understand. Otherwise you have to believe someone with more experience than you, or continue on in ignorance.
Having a penis colors your whole life. The litmus test for femaleness starts with having a vagina. Ask any maternity doc. Penis = male. Vagina = female. This concept is ingrained in our society. It's ingrained in your head.
Does a pre-op feel feminine? Oh, you betcha. Every post-op has been there and done that. But the difference between hiding a penis and having a vagina is immeasurable. And, clearly, at least on this forum, indescribable.
Remember, every single post-op has had the experience of being both a pre-op and a post-op. Every single pre-op has only the experience of being pre-op.
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