Quote Originally Posted by Kathryn Martin View Post
As long as you think that sex and gender are the same thing it is hard to understand. As long as you equate feminine with being female, how can you understand why the "hard work" begins after surgery. Feeling feminine and dressing as a female is not the same than being female and seeking congruence.

By the way I am a pre-op woman.
I don't think sex and gender are the same thing, Kathryn. Where did you get that in what I said? I think I'm pretty much like you, except you're further along and have a supportive SO. I began seeking congruence long before I knew the special TS sense of the word, and I never use the term "feminine." I avoid trying to be feminine, if that means to mimic stereotypic female behavior. I have learned to trust my core.

I dress in order to help being accepted as the woman I am, and my next milestone will be dressing full time. I seek to reify myself in every way I can. I consider myself pre-op, until the universe says otherwise.

Lallie