Sara, thnx!! well said..
I paid a price for my transition, i get certain benefits..
You pay a price for your non transition..you get certain benefits
they are different prices...good summary?

bathrooms really are a flash point..if you choose to transition, you don't have to worry about it...and i've said before, its arguable whether i can support a man's right to use a woman's bathroom...a large majority of gg's don't want you there...what are their "rights"?..

are you a woman? again...i can't say for you..but that's part of your price.. in fact, i think it shines a light on a big difference...if not transitioned you are required to deal with all the crap..you have to explain yourself, why do you have male ID? sorry this bathroom is women only, your stockings are not dress code at work...etcetc...and because of your choice, your internal understanding of yourself as a woman is not reflected back at you, and because of my choice, it is.. and for both of us, we both well know it pretty much impacts every little thing , every single day..

and yes i actually have divorced myself from the issues we are talking about here.
I have done it by planning well, working my ass off, and slowly and methodically winning over my friends and family to my cause
and every time i have to explain the difference between crossdressers, and transgenderists and gender queers and drag queens.,
i lose what i've gained...

and at the same time i am supportive of the fight to gain all possible freedom of gender expression of all types... and my actions speak loudly...including going to my daughters high school and outing myself to her class and to the gay/straight alliance..

People claim to want to fight for my rights..well then fight for my right to be what i want...which is a woman..not transgendered..a woman... fight for that...i'm fighting for you