Interview with a Husband

[MandyGG]

Jessica,

I am so sorry that happened to you! Maybe in her eyes at the time she thought she was still a virgin because it wasn't with a man. Illogical thinking, I know, but....maybe. I think that it was very noble of you to wait for marriage for so long. Whether she kept her end or not, the bottom line is that you did. You should be very proud of that. I can't put myself in your shoes to know how it feels, because I have never dealt with a situation like it, but I could imagine that it really effin sucked! I am so sorry!

I see what you are saying, but neither of us are in Audrey's head now or at the time that this situation was happening. I wish I had a clearer answer for you about it. I guess, I will just have to take his word that these are his feelings. So, if by chance he is bi-sexual and just not admitting to it, then so be it. I am not going to leave him for it. I would only leave him if he acted on it. He knows that. I do still feel that certain circumstances, sex drive, and loneliness can lead a person to do things that they wouldn't "normally" do. So much of this lifestyle doesn't make sense to me and confuses the hell out of me, but it doesn't keep me from trusting him. I have had my thoughts and issues with it over the last 2 years and they got me nowhere. It was time for me to shed the doubt and take him for his word. I don't know who has the right answer on the situation to say if a straight man can have sex with men and still be considered straight. Many gay men have had sex with women and still consider themselves gay and no bisexual. Isn't that close to the same thing?

First off, you already know this but, you are an amazing person. Not because of how much love you have for your husband no matter what but because you are a person who holds a tremendous amount of understanding of things with life in general. You may or may not be a spiritual person but coming from someone who is spiritual (not religious), you are very spiritually evolved to have that level of understanding.

Thank you for those sweet words! I appreciate them so much! Thank you for sharing your story as well and you are pretty freakin' amazing yourself!