Quote Originally Posted by danielle.cd View Post
first off would your husband love u any less if u had to have a mastectimy for any reason. why do u call a some one who loves to dress up as a girl gay, plenty of actors dress and where makup r they homosexual. where do u go to escape when u need a break , there are alot of cders that cd to escape there lives for a little while. the more u read up on it the more info u know ,
Danielle,
Thank you for your input, I would be glad to discuss with you the questions you asked. I believe that if It was medically necessary for me to have a mastectomy, my husband would indeed still love me. I do know however that we have discussed surgery just for the sake of surgery, such as say, I were to get a nose job, is something we agreed is money that could be better spent else where. The man I married didn't tell me he wanted to be a woman, he still isn't sure if it is what he wants now.

I grew up a theater nerd I am well aware of dressing and putting a character on for a performance, no it doesn't make that person Gay, although I have had many a best friends that are. The worry about his being gay comes as a combination to his past, where he dabbled with the idea and experimented, combined with the CD/TG.

Someplace to escape isn't something either of us really have as a luxury. I am trying to understand his need and desires, however I am also realistic to the fact I know there are certain things I can not accept in a marriage I am in. We are working to find out exactly what it is he want and how he is to decide if it is best for us to split ways while our children are young and we both have a chance to find love again. It wrenches every part of my being to think of us not being together. But its isn't fair to either of us to stay in the marriage only to turn around and end it when the kids have grown and he decides what he wants.

We have actually had counseling before in the past, the town we live in is a very Mormon lead community, for the most part we don't even get to our core problems when they are trying to "SAVE" us and send him to a porn addicts class, that thinking will not help us.

It is true there are many interpretations of the bible and its verses that people often manipulate to suit what they need at the time. After lots of prayer I don't believe that is our case. I have spent many countless nights in Prayer, and reading trying to find a compromise that will work for us. However I know where the line in the sand is for me, I am willing to let him have what he needs and compromise up to that point. The part of the problem is he doesn't know if he wants to cross that point or not.

I am willing and wanting to do what I can to save our marriage I do not believe in divorce, but for me there is a point where, for my children and myself I have to draw a line. He at that point has to make a decision only he can make, is the compromise enough for me or not. I pains me that I cant help, or make that decision for him.

We looked up the movie and are both interested in seeing it and have even discussed challenging ours selves to the love challenge.

Thank you for taking in my part as well, I look forward to answering any more questions and chatting more.