Quote Originally Posted by Mrs. G View Post
...I am trying to understand and to be patient, to understand the "Pink Fog". However I am on a roller coaster of emotion, I just ask for continued support for both of us, and understanding from Sierra, I'm scared, terrified really. Thank you for all of your help and different opinions.
Well, after you develop your understanding of the Pink Fog, there are a lot of us CDers that would like to have it explained to us! I think that Reine has done her usual amazing job of getting into CDers minds in her post above. I read it and say "good heavens, that's right! Why didn't I realize that?"

You certainly did not fail your marriage and your presence here shows that you likely won't. A marriage fails only when one partner gives up and cuts off communication. Avoid that and the two of you can work your way through just about anything.

That "more I talk, the less I know" feeling is not a bad thing. It's a natural consequence of attaining a greater understanding of Sierra. As time goes on, you'll fill the gaps in your knowledge and many of the fears that you have will be assuaged.

I'm in the same situation with my daughters. They don't know about Eryn because Mimi and I feel that the knowledge will make their lives more complicated. There is no need to burden them with the responsibility of keeping my secret. Eventually they will know, but by then they will be on their own and the knowledge will simply be an unimportant footnote in their life. I'm quite sure of that because both of them, like most intelligent young people, are quite tolerant of those whose lifestyles do not happen to match their own.

Thank you so much for your support of Sierra and for being here with us. You're a special lady!

Hugs, Eryn