Oh this is gonna be a fun one.

First of all let me say that there is no inferior TG classification. Having said that, none of us have any control if someone FEELS inferior or if someone tries to perpetrate a superior attitude. I'm one of those that think crossdressing is a completely harmless activity and if I was somehow able to divert my transition into "just" cross-dressing and hanging out with my friends on weekends I think I would have preferred that. I wouldn't have had to come out professionally, I wouldn't have had to spend every available cent I had on surgeries, I wouldn't have had to buy a whole new wardrobe, or learn how to do boring "day-time" makeup. Basically, I think it would have been a lot more fun and a lot less pain and suffering. Now I don't have any idea how a real cross-dresser feels because I never had that itch. I only cross-dressed to explore what I was feeling and all it did for me was push me over the edge just a few months later. What ever it is that keeps CD's content is a mystery to me, but I wish I had it.

I was also talking to my bestie just yesterday and she was lamenting that when I came out as trans she lost her gay friend, and every girl needs a gay friend. I said, believe me if being a gay dude worked for me I would have been perfectly happy to stay that way. I can't imagine not being attracted to men because it's all I've ever known (even though I spent my life wishing it away) but I can definitely imagine being a regular openly queer guy (cuz I tried it for awhile) and that would have been a great place for me. I tried the cross-dressing hoping it would put an end to the lifetime of gender questions and for one brief exciting moment, I was a gay CD and it was wonderful. Alas, it ultimately just dredged up long buried feelings and well, the rest has been fairly well documented.

I am now a fully transitioned TS waiting for my legal name change. Some would say this is superior to being a CD, but I don't understand that line of thinking. Superior in what way? My story is kinda sad and pathetic so I certainly don't feel superior. I'm actually surprised more CD's don't feel superior because they can leave this TG stuff anytime they want and enjoy their life as a man, or take care of problems, or just hang out with buddies or whatever, without ANY of the stresses that come with living full time. That's a pretty enviable situation if you ask me. The only real divide is the Life vs Lifestyle issue. A part-timer is completely free to deny us or his fem side whenever it suits him and a full-timer is not. One is not less than the other, just different.