I live two very rich, very full lives.
Like Marleena, my life is already woven into a complex web of family relationships and responsibilities that I "inherited" from a long time of living as a male. Perhaps I could leave those in the dust behind me, but is it really so important to bow to the "trans community" and do so? For what? For a label? For a place in a "Pride" parade?
Sure, I could wallow in questioning my lifetime -- should I have transitioned? At which age? What would my life be like now if I had only ...?
Phoey! Like Popeye "I yam whats I yam, and that's all what I yam."
I'm living in both genders, and yes, Miranda-E, my female life does include "court, DMV, doctor, social things, BBQ's, neigherhood council meetings."
And no, I can't say, ""I'm not playing today," because I have responsibilities as a woman too. I have to be there when my friends go through divorces, surgeries, funerals, and many, many other life experiences.
Is there a "problem" with the "trans commmunity?" Do I care? My friends are my friends and that's all that matters to me.
My real problems? Despite living two active lives I can only have one "legal name," one "legal gender," one passport, and one driver's license.
Those are my real problems, not some phoney baloney good-time rock-'n-roll relationship with labels and the "trans community." Frankly, I'm too busy being a woman to be a "trans."
Hugs,
Persephone.
