Quote Originally Posted by Tina B. View Post
You have said, there is no agreement, just what you though was an understanding. With you, it's bedroom play, and that's cool, but for him, it's a part of him. He needs to find himself, where does his feeling fit in to this. Just maybe you have driven him to this, because he is allowed no other outlet. Instead of laying down the law, try talking about it, see what his needs are, and what it takes to satisfy at least part of it.
Lola discovered something that her husband had withheld from her and she is here trying to understand. There's a big jump between, "Honey, I'm a kinky sort of guy so why don't I put on a corset and we can have fun in bed", to "Ooops, I forgot to tell you that I may have gender issues and I also like to wear forms, wig, makeup, total outfits, and go out in public interacting with others as a woman while you believe me to be at work".

He should have discussed this with her long ago.