[SIZE="2"]I feel like dashing off a PM or two to explain my “position,” even though there isn’t one. This thread was merely meant to be a plea for non-TG MtF crossdressers to somehow have a “voice” on a site dedicated to crossdressers. The plea itself seems patently absurd, given the circumstances. May I suggest we all look in the hypothetical mirror and ponder who is in the “room” with us? Is that too much to ask for? I mean, I can embrace TG issues as well as the next girl – that’s a given, and I wouldn’t be HERE if I was not compassionate towards ALL types of crossdressers. It ain’t easy, no matter what your “approach” might be, or what your intentions are, according to the situation you have inherited, cultivated, or fabricated. I can dig it, OK?[/SIZE]

[SIZE="2"]I’m sure someone will now break off a piece of the above verbiage, match it up to a previous statement of mine, and attempt to discredit me in front of the gathered throng. Go ahead, you’re within the rules to do so, but you’re completely missing the point, my dear…
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Quote Originally Posted by ReineD
A big part of the trouble, I think, is that no one puts labels like "TS", "CD", or "TS Questioning" behind their names, and if you encounter a supportive post you might assume it comes from a CD when in fact it was posted by a TS.
[SIZE="2"]I keep thinking about a person I met over on Rose’s Forum (in the UK) back in 2005. Her name was Lisa, and she was definitely TG, a strong “candidate” for TS, but I only saw her in the MtF section. She was alternately poised or highly emotional, happy or miserable, capable of reaching out to nearly every member on the site in some way, including me. One day, a new member lamented that she would always be a “mere” crossdresser, and never scale the “heights” towards actually becoming a woman. Lisa posted a reply along the lines of “Same here! We’re all just plain-old crossdressers, so make yourself at home…” This was an amazing statement coming from such a person, and it struck a chord with me which echoes within this thread. You know, a lot of people never declare what they ARE, which is kinda cool, in a way…

I just wish to add that I have many supportive TG, TS, and FtM friends on this site. I’m NOT insular… [/SIZE]

Quote Originally Posted by Dana7
…I can agree with you that there is a simple joy in doing those little things that give us satisfaction and happiness, even if they are infrequent, noncommittal, or non-TG. Like you, I just have a little fun now and then and it makes me happy.
[SIZE="2"]I think there is plenty of room here for these “non-committal” types, and, since they are amongst us anyway, their personal relationship to crossdressing needs to be respected. As I alluded to earlier, I respect transgendered individuals without hesitation – not to do so would be akin to fouling my own “nest,” however intangible it may be. However, a lot of crossdressers JUST crossdress…[/SIZE]

Quote Originally Posted by Krististeph
In that case, especially if they fail to try to understand a further clarification from you, then 'ignoring' is a totally valid action.
[SIZE="2"]Sara Jessica made an excellent point earlier about “ignoring” certain members being detrimental to the discussion at hand, or any discussion, for that matter. I can’t speak for everyone, but if I have nothing supportive to “say,” via carefully-chosen words, in someone else’s thread, I don’t try to post in it. I figure the discussion won’t benefit from what I have to say, so I stay out of it. Oh, I can read a challenging sentence, get angered enough to respond, and then zip off a quick post that irks everyone, but, most of the time, I don’t get involved…

I don’t want to soil my effeminacy by getting mad (a masculine characteristic, IMHO) at a troller. Enter the ignore list. Also, I don’t have the time to dissect someone’s post, or thread OP, and go over it line-by-line like I’m the self-appointed Dean of the College of Transgendered Behavior correcting a thesis. I can distinctly recall typing a similar sentence to that last one on at least three other occasions, but, check it out – I just HAD to do it again! I really think I’m being tested, and I wonder why. It doesn’t matter how well I try to write these things, or how well I try to pull together all of the necessary bits vital to the topic at hand, some people will inevitably judge me as soon as I don my panties and step into the room! Tell me – is this prejudice useful, within the context of discussion, or does everything have to inevitably derail via personal attacks just to please everyone (except me, that is)?


You’d be surprised at how many messages of support I get during these unintentional “skirmishes,” from “just” crossdressers and TG individuals alike. It’s an issue that exists, like it or not. Perhaps I’m opening eyes and minds to a hidden reality here, but that was not my intention at all – I just wished to voice concerns along the lines I have already transcribed, and give further voice to those who crossdress for pleasure, usually in the shadows, somewhere in the far corner of the community. We deserve to be heard and respected, just like everyone else... [/SIZE]