BINGO! We have a winner.
A cross dressing friend of mine has voiced the opinion, based on years of observation and experience, that cross dressers as a group are among the most selfish and self-centered she has encountered. Unfortunately, I agree with that statement. Of course, there are exceptions. Often it is driven by "pink fog" which does not always fade or disappear. It is too easy, but very understandable, to hang dating difficulties or relationship failures totally on cross dressing. It is really about the individuals involved, and being narcissistic and self-centered is often poison to relationships. Sure, cross dressing itself will be a deal breaker for some women. But to say all (or most) women hate or feel threatened by it is putting the blame where it does not belong in most cases.