[SIZE="2"]As usual, I'm late to the "party." [/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]In many ways it should be called transgender.com, since we “ordinary” crossdressers are dumped on repeatedly by members of the GLBT community and confused individuals (like yourself)…[/SIZE]Originally Posted by Silentpartner GG SO
[SIZE="2"]And she may NOT be. What on Earth is there to be frightened about, or angry about, or confused about, or hurt by? Crossdressing (the MtF variety) has been going on for a LONG time – how about accepting the fact that there is variance in the populace, and all types of human behavior exist under the Sun? It's called tolerance. Let me guess – she’s scared (or worried) that HE might be homosexual?[/SIZE]The newly arrived GG is likely to be confused, upset, angry, hurt, frightened - all or any of those things and maybe more.
[SIZE="2"]I have a conscience, which is why I don’t respond to pleas for understanding from GG’s or SO’s. I’m unqualified to help someone who cannot fathom why a male would wear women’s clothing. Keep in mind that few people on this board understand why they crossdress. On top of this, we are engaged in a mainly self-ish enterprise that equates with pleasure, in all variations or definitions of that word, and YOU need to come here with that understanding first and foremost…Does anyone really want it on their conscience that they may have driven away an SO/GG who was trying to understand YOU? who was trying to find a way to make her marriage work in the light of the revelation she has just had dropped on her? when she really was genuinely interested in finding out about what CD'ing was about and how it could fit into her marriage, her life and her relationship with her CD'ing SO?
From my perspective, you’re saying “NO” to us, and many GG's who visit this site are also firmly in the negative in regards to MtF crossdressing. With this in mind, it’s better to say nothing. I really don’t care if your marriage “works,” or if your relationship works in some predetermined correct way – I’m here to share the joy of crossdressing with other crossdressers who may feel the same way, and anything to the contrary is viewed by me as an unfortunate intrusion…[/SIZE]
[SIZE="2"]You’re rather naïve about discussion forums, I’m afraid – what do you expect? This place is, by and large, fairly benign, but beware of those who don’t care about anything, let alone helping someone like the aforementioned GG. Lurking (and reading) may be a better option at times, if understanding is truly your goal…[/SIZE]Whilst nobody really expects everyone to wrap her in cotton wool and say "there there, everything is going to be fine" I really do not understand why some people think it is ok to reply to this plea for help with a downright nasty, put-down post.
