Think before you Post???

[NicoleScott]

I find it insensitive to refer to her husband in the feminine. She is new and not used to male crossdressers referring to themselves and each other "she or her". Please refer to the new GG's husband or SO as him or he. It really puts me off when I see that in responses from otherwise well meaning people.

If a CD has a strong feminine identity, uses a feminine name, and refers to self as feminine asks for responses to a post about the wife/SO, wouldn't it be insensitive to the CD to then use masculine pronouns when referring to that CD?

I also gringe when I see a CD start off with how wonderful it is and that he and his wife go out in public all the time, or that he dresses 24/7. I mean...talk about things that will run a scared, worried, hurt GG off before she can learn anything. She does not need to hear how deeply some of us might be invloved.

Do posts about positive experiences from a CD need to be tempered so as not to alarm a new GG/SO? When a CD has posted such positive experiences in the past, I have never seen the scolding "knock it off - you might scare off the newbie SO's" - I've seen only supportive comments.


Does support for the family/friends/SO's/GG's take a back seat to support for the CD? I hope not.