Originally Posted by
heatherdress
A lot of threads express concerns about "passing". I don't read any threads about "passing". I get it. Most of us want to feel comfortable when dressed and it woud be easy if we "passed". Most of us CDing guys don't pass, and never will, because of our - size, features, voice, beard, height, build, gait, hair etc. It's simple, we are guys and spend a lot of wasted time worrying that we look like guys -even in make-up, a dress and high heels. Why do we worry so much? If you think about it, women are frequently overweight, skinny, out of shape, too tall, no breasts, sagging breasts, hairy, bald, poorly dressed, loud and ugly. Do they "pass"? I am sure most feel self-conscious about their appearance, as we do. Some will be stared at, maybe laughed at. There are assholes everywhere.
If anyone who might have normal eyesight discovers that we are a male dressed as a female (i.e. - we did not "pass") why should we care what they think? Most of us, hopefully, dress for us, not for them.
What's really important is who we are, not what we look like to others. It's our feelings that should be most important. This should be fun for us. It's just hard to remember that when we are used to worrying about being detected or being gawked at. This "passing" BS is really about confidence, attitude and being smart about were we go and who we are with.
If only I can remember that myself. By the way, do I pass? Just a joke.
