"Embracing" is not necessary for the marriage to be a success. Many people are married who do not embrace one or more things about their spouses, in fact this likely describes most marriages. Successful marriages are based on genuine and heart-felt compromises. A more valuable attitude to have, is acknowledgement of a spouse's inherent need, and an ability to respect the spouse's needs and give them room to express those needs, even if it takes awhile to fully understand them. And this goes both ways. A CDer needs to respect where his wife is at with all of this too.Originally Posted by Lynn Marie
I don't know your personal circumstances, but if you were married and expected that your wife should have embraced the CDing in order for your marriage to be happy, then I can understand the reasons for a divorce.
Obviously, if the husband experiences a complete gender change (a wish to live full time or near full time) and the wife cannot change her heterosexual romantic/physical attraction, then it is a different story. There cannot be a compromise if the husband is a woman and the wife wants to be married to a man. But it doesn't sound as if this is DM's situation.
