They say all good things must come to an end

[linda allen]

Let me put it this way, which of these three things is the best. Be honest:

1. Telling wife before marriage.

2. Telling wife after marriage.

3. Not telling wife, having her find the stash, assuming an affair, finding out about the crossdressing and feeling betrayed/decieved, etc etc. ......

That seems pretty simple, but for many of us, the desire to crossdress comes later in life after we've been married for a while, perhaps many years.

Life is far to complex to be reduced to a multiple choice test question. We can give the OP advice, but our advice is colored by our own situations and life experiences. The facts as we understand them are: She won't give up dressing and she won't leave her marriage. Her wife will be working from home so she won't be able to dress around the home unless she tells her wife about her desire to do so and her wife agrees to her dressing while she is home.

With all that out of the way, the only advice that is of any use to the OP is advice on how to possibly bring the dressing up to the wife and have it end in a positive way. Even then, only the OP is in a position to judge what might work and what might not.