They say all good things must come to an end

[linda allen]

This makes me think of an area where Marla and I have a whole lot in common. We don't have a desire to get dolled up and hang out with our SO's. I think Marla's aversion is even greater than mine because while I don't go out of my way to avoid my wife while presenting as a female, she will catch fleeting glimpses here and there which failed to make the world explode. ..............

When you and your wife are both retired, it may be hard to avoid each other unless you live in a mansion. More importantly though, if you and your wife love each other, you will want to be around each other much of the time.

There are many folks on the forum who spend much of their time in "female" mode with their wives and even go out shopping or to restaurants with their wives as "sisters" or friends. This is pretty much my goal although I want to remain "male" to friends and neighbors. We have a place where we often spend weekends among friends and I am in "male" mode during that time except for wearing panties and possibly a bra.

For those who follow my "saga", this is a work in progress. I try to determine what she is comfortable with while keeping a constant gentle push..

Marla, I truly think you need to somehow carve out an understanding, not that you will be prancing around your wife while presenting as a female but instead, that you'll be in a sequestered part of the house doing your thing while she does hers,

I don't see something like that as more than a temporary arrangement. Not something that will last for the rest of their lives.