[SIZE="2"]That’s fine and dandy if you ARE a transgendered person, but let’s not assume that the CD in the motel/hotel room, beset with alleged shame and struggling to express himself is transgendered – there are plenty of MtF crossdressers who dress as women, but they do not identify as female. Our boy in the motel is doing the best he can, under the circumstances, so please leave him alone so he can find himself, or herself, or at least derive some momentary pleasure from his crossdressing. I remember a time gone by when I could crossdress in peace without all of this TG rhetoric clouding my mind, but then I came to discussion forums like this one, and my crossdressing wasn’t so simple anymore. I take issue with this line of reasoning that you must be out in the open, come what may, or you’re just not qualified to be a TRUE MtF crossdresser – it sounds a lot like the bullying I used to get in the playground, where effeminacy was targeted without mercy, but now it's coming from a new (and, I must say, unwelcome) angle...Originally Posted by Badtranny
Saying there is a “shell” surrounding one’s true self sounds pretty, but, if you ask me, ALL people have protective enclosures, kept in place for security and survival. If you look in the mirror you will see what you want to see. How can I NOT accept who I am? This was automatic, and I immediately started to build my defenses against those who would do me harm. I live in a world where boys who identify as boys cannot be girls – not now, not ever, so I have to be very creative in my “approach” to this world. I want to crossdress for the sake of crossdressing, and let the rest take care of itself. Just like the heroes in the motel and hotel rooms, I know my limits, and I have developed my own boundaries for comfort – since I’m not TG, this is as far as it goes, but, to those who insist on being prideful, my ilk will never go far enough. This issue will forever be deadlocked, because I will not exceed my limits just to please and empower someone else, and the TG pundits will never take me seriously. We are worlds apart...
One more thing – a shell is just a metaphor. You assume I’m in a shell that I have created for myself, but, from my vantage point, I don’t detect the presence of a shell at all – you’re TELLING me that there is something wrong with me, and, on this point, I beg to differ...
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