Quote Originally Posted by Badtranny View Post
You may want to pick your people but unfortunately, we humans hang from the frayed end of circumstance and our people are often chosen for us by the greater social construct. Having said that, you may love and support your sister without always being in 100% agreement. There's many girls on this board who I have come to like and respect very much, but I don't think there's ANY of them that I haven't argued with at one time or another. My "online persona" is real and my thoughts and opinions are real and there is no way to be a real genuine person with an authentic personality and NOT disagree with someone or a lot of someones. Just because Veronica is kinda bitchy doesn't mean she's wrong or even misguided. Just because a bunch of us endorse coming out doesn't mean we think everybody should do it OUR way. . ,.
Hi, Melissa! I find very little to disagree with in your latest posts. What I appreciate about them most is that you do acknowledge that people are different, that their needs are different and that these needs may need to be addressed in different ways.

And you are right when you say that society will lump us all together. But that doesn't mean that society will always be right to do so. I will always and forevermore reserve the right to decide for myself who my brothers and sisters are. Obviously I feel a natural affinity for transpeople, but I've already met a few that I won't have anything to do with. If anyone says they're my brother/sister, they're going to have to show me that's true. I won't just take their word for it.

You know the old saying, "Nice guys finish last"? My reply to that is, "Yeah, but they're still nice guys. And anyway, who says they were running the same stupid race as everybody else? Maybe they didn't finish last. Maybe they weren't running at all."

And so if someone is "b***, but not wrong or misguided," well, she's still a b***. People can be right and on the right road without being bitchy. And this sets aside the question as to whether she is actually right.

It is possible to be right and beautiful at the same time. Can I quote Leonard Cohen again?

Every heart, every heart to love will come
But like a refugee
Ring the bells that still can ring
Forget your perfect offering
There is a crack, a crack in everything
That's how the light gets in.

Veronica says she has lots of experience. Lots of us do. Here's what I've learned from my experience: there's truth and then there's truth. There's a bitchy sort of truth, if that's what you're interested in. But if you want the genuine article, look for beauty, look for depth. Bitchiness doesn't impress me in the least. I've got too much of that myself and I've always found it distasteful. I'd prefer to turn to people like Cohen.

Best wishes, Annabelle