Anne I can sympathize. I am fearing the same thing. When a man for my job or family I cannot appear to be a girly man but it looks like this is where I am heading. It is hard to look like a girl one day and then look like a manly man the next. Fortunately my weight loss will seem to be the difference in my new appearance. I have been overweight for over 20 years and of course I will look much different than I did a few months ago. I hope this is all people will think but I am worried that I may "out" myself without meaning to. I guess I could go for the "sloppy" man look but I never really liked that. I have to work real hard not to use female mannerisms whan I am being a man, like the way I sit, stand and walk. Or the way I use my hands or talk. I have spent so much time and energy trying to appear feminine I have to now work on trying to be masculine too.
