Why we so scared to...

[Foxglove]

Right. You are saying that being trans is not an imposition on society. If I were a CDer and lived according to this credo, I would then cease keeping the CDing private, since I would believe that if society does not accept me, it is their problem and not mine.

Not necessarily. If you believe that the disadvantages of coming out would outweigh the advantages, you'd stay in the closet. Society would still be wrong, but you'd do what you feel is necessary.

The other point of view which is one that I adhere to, IF I do not have an abject need to be full time and I also have a job that I want to keep and a family that also does not want to suffer bias because of my CDing, the problems that society in general has in accepting the CDing also become MY problems, even if I believe that everyone "should" accept this. I have to deal with the existing bias as best I can by making certain choices.

Yes. I haven't said anything to the contrary. (By the way, why does this need have to be "abject"?)

The point I'm making is that society is imposing on us. We're not imposing on them. Hence, we have no need to apologize to anybody by saying, "I don't want to impose on others," or "I don't want to force my lifestyle on others."

We'll often have to accept what they impose on us, but that doesn't mean we have to apologize to them.

Exactly my view. For all choices there are consequences. I look at the possible consequences and decide what my actions will be. I am not pleased with the possible consequences of coming out or transitioning so I do not follow that path.

I haven't suggested that you should do otherwise. I don't know why people keep insisting that I have.