Michelle, I wholeheartedly agree with everything you said and admire the objectivity with which you said it.

But I think you missed a category? There are individuals within the spectrum who would like a blended body but who do not have sexual motives. There are people whose sense of gender is fluid, while they live in a world that only accepts either the male or the female sex. They are forced to define themselves as either male or female, while their inherent gender ID is bigender (or maybe even genderless ?). I refer to the two-spirit concept, the birth males who feel that the angularity and hairiness of the male body is ugly, who prefer soft curves, but who have no wish (or no need?) for invasive surgery. These people have a sense of personal aesthetics that is different than people like you and me, who fall decidedly on one side of the gender binary.

I'm not convinced that every person who comes into this section of the forum asking about how to feminize their body a little bit (softer curves through slight breast growth and rounder hips) get a sexual thrill out of having a softer body. But since we all live in a binary-sex world, this is difficult to comprehend.

Another consideration is that maybe, to the people I've just described, the "feminine male" concept is a stepping stone in terms of peeling back the onion layers towards eventually realizing a fully female identity, just as many homosexuals first identify as bisexual in their youths before eventually realizing they have a same-sex attraction. While others, are always bisexual ... or bigender.

A note on the two-spirit concept: I read an interesting explanation recently. In Western culture, we see gender as a straight line with male on one side and female on the other, with perhaps a sliding scale in between the two. Admittedly, most people fit inside this paradigm. But, the cultures in which two-spirits are accepted see gender as a circle, with no beginning nor end to either gender.