thanks for addressing pink fog as it applies to crossdressers from the perspective of a gg Reine. I do not disagree with what you say however that term smacks of male privilige to me and it always has. Since cross dressers identify as male I suppose is why it has always left that impression on me, especially when other xdressers will typically implore someone to excuse behavior by saying something like "oh, it's just pink fog" or "watch out for pink fog". But that is my perspective only and I certainly can't speak for xdressers and what they experience.
As for the cosmetic changes the point I was trying to make wasn't that any of those those things make someone a woman or a man. But they are expressions of gender typically. In Kelly's post she raises some very serious concerns that I too share for Paula. In my limited opinion I think that Paula needs to get as much experience as possible expressing her gender, and until body changes are quicker than they are now those things I mentioned will have to suffice. However once the tranny grenade has exploded in a relationship it is not uncommon for the wife to take a firm stance against any type of future gender expression or changes. Hence how the ear piercings were a no go.
When the SO clamps down and takes a hard stance against someone experiencing what Paula is that makes them want to run either over or away from the person who loves them because that expression of love is what they perceive as killing them.
I was simply trying to encourage her to not limit the opportunities that she does have to experiment with her physical gender expression before ending her marriage.
I don't think Paula is a xdresser, but I think her energy could be better used on planning her transition and more practice expressing her desired gender role than fighting with her wife and the frustration it causes her. My advice has been geared towards reducing her anxiety levels and creating an environment in her relationship where her focus can be on herself and what she needs without her wife trying to stop it.
And one last time, PAULA STOP TALKING TO YOUR WIFE ABOUT TRANSITIONING! It is not fair to accuse her of being unsupportive because she isn't your cheerleader about this.
