I certainly empathize with the "Catch-22" you're experiencing. My wife and I need to be honest and keep our lines of communication open but I know she feels under pressure about my cross dressing and neither of us is able to initiate a conversation without fear of hurting the other. The fact that I don't know where I am going with it just makes it more mysterious to both of us. One thing that has helped us keep it on the table while keeping the pressure lower is my forwarding to her some of the posts I see in this forum, especially the funny ones but also those that echo what I think her own feelings are, so she doesn't feel so alone. Reading the Loved Ones section of the forum has helped me to understand some of the feelings she has but has difficulty expressing. It's a work in progress. My thanks to you all for sharing your experiences here.
