I know exactly how you feel...Originally Posted by Laura Collette
For me it is definitely not. I'm prepared to make sacrifices and I did, not engaging in CD as much as I could and not bringing it up for as long as I could. If it means I have to live without it for us to stay together - I will try. She's not demanding it, she is sad that I can't by fully happy without it, that I need it for happiness, that her is not fully enough, and I can certainly understand her. She doesn't want anything but me, so why anything but her is not enough for me?
I would be OK with DADT arrangement if it would mean she would feel better. But she definitely does not want that and refuses to agree to that kind of a compromise. If it has to happen, she wants it to be with her, but then she does not want for it to happen at all and if I'm lucky and she happens to be in the right mood she might be OK with it, but other times she's in emotional turmoil, and I worry every time that I hurt her. It is kind of a catch-22.
Yes, I have definitely not been proactive enough about getting some "couples time". We do this, but I should generate more ideas and be more active for this. I'm a kind of a "home person" and she comes up with ideas to go out more often than me. Thanks for reminding me. That's something I have to work on.
Not sure if I got your meaning correctly (English is not my native tongue), but I could not possibly demand anything more from her. She is almost perfect in all respects but this one, and this is not something that can be held against a person. I'm the one that has a "weirdness", she's not at fault about not fully embracing it. And I strongly suspect that a girl who would fully embrace it and find it interesting on the long run might not have a personality that suited me.
