MM, I know this is going to come across as insensitive. I don't mean it as such. It's just perspective. Just as you gave us yours, here's mine.

Height and weight aside, the beard just comes across to me as "not trying at all". How hard is it, and what possible problem could it cause to just shave? I don't get it. It comes across to me as flaunting the "man in a dress" thing. Kinda like, "Yeah I'm a man in a dress! What are you going to do about it!". Maybe not the way you mean it, but the first impression would already me made.

I think we all appreciate effort. It takes a lot of effort for all of us. Some more than others, but it's not easy. About a year ago I saw a sister who was about your size in Walmart with a GG. She rocked the hell out of it! The hair, the nails, the makeup, and clothes that fit and made the very best of what she had. She was awesome!!

So, if you want to be accepted, try fitting in. That doesn't mean just putting on a dress and some blue eyeshadow. Start by shaving. Everything. Or at least everything that shows. I don't get what's the big deal about shaving. I do get the big deal if you don't. Find clothes that make you look like a woman. If you're dressing like that "tiny thing with boobs and hips" in your head, that's not going to ever work. Find clothes that fit! Learn how to do makeup. Not screwing around with whatever you bought on clearance. Buy foundation that matches your skin tone. Learn how to contour. Learn how to do your eyes. Don't just plaster on some color on your eyelids. Stay away from the bright red lipstick. Get your nails done by a pro. Get your brows done by a pro.

Maybe it's a little scary to try that hard. You know that no matter how hard you try you're never going to be that "tiny thing", but you can do a hell of a lot better than you're doing. I think for many of us it's a little scary to immerse ourselves in it. It's a little less scary to half-ass it. You can pretend you're just doing it as a joke. Put on your big girl panties and quit half-assing it. Own it!