Reine made some comments at #31 before I could. As is my custom I went back and read some of your comments and posts. You definitely need to not compare yourself to your wife. Wives come in all shapes and sizes that are subject to change. Your hair is longer. So what! I see may really sexy women with short hair. She has gained weight. Yep, everyone seems to be subject to that these days. Been to the mall? Been to the local bar. You have a lot more sexy clothes than her. She hasn't worn a dress in two years. A wedding it was? It sounds like my wife. She has a BMI over 30. She wears a touch of makeup, lip gloss and that's all! She cannot wear heels anymore because of a foot operation, fused toe. Yep, forty years ago I could carry her up four flights of stairs to our walk up apartment. She was 115 =/- pounds. She was a ten. She still is a ten in my book.

I look in the mirror and my wavy blond hair is gone. The hair that remains is grey. I have put on some pounds. Yes, I went from 175 military weight to 215 and now down to 190. I've lost an inch in height. My back is a wreck. I have peripheral and autonomic neiropathy that hurts like hell sometimes. War wounds are killing me.

Neither she nor I have dumped each other. There must be something else happening in your life beside her looks.

Yes, I now have 107 dresses and over 400 slips. I have more bra, girdles (she has none), and panties than she has. Yes, I present myself as the man she married, but, with the signs of aging. Decades ago she told me cross dressing was not her cup of tea. She loves tea! So, I have long hair when I wear a wig. I dress up when she is not home. Right now? I wearing a black tee shirt. Gym shorts. No socks. I haven't shaved in three days. I need a hair cut. I actually feel comfortable sitting here banging away on the keyboard.

Over the years I've read too much crap on this board that the wife is suppose to bend to the husband's cross dressing desires. It is shoved in her face! Take it or leave it! I've always have respected my wife's views. Yes, it is DADT. And, that includes the visual trappings of cross dressing.

I suspect there is a second side to the issues in your marriage. You definitely have stated how much "girlie" you are than she. Yes, I suggest marital therapy for both of you, and, individual therapy for both of you. Of course, you'll relish the thoughts the therapist will tell your wife that you are who you are. But, will there be an accommodation for who you wife is? I suspect from your post that is not on your agenda.