Elisa, I had to read your 2 posts at least 2 times and you said that you liked the beard and looking at your profile pic you are clean shaven did she not know you then? Also you said that you presented you CDing as a form of addiction or dependency a bad light to say the least I believe you are having a problem with your CDing which you passed on to your girl and now you want her acceptance. Sorry for being so blunt but this is just my take on your post and I am probably way off base and far from an expert but please feel free to post anytime it's good to vent and this is a good place to do it. Good-Luck.
Allisa(Lisa)