Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
If the prime sexual interest has always been and will always be an image of the self dressed as a woman, then it's a shame that a wife did not know this from the onset. Likely, a wife thought on her wedding day that her husband was into her sexually as much as she was into him and that they were both one another's prime sexual interest.


... Thi is why they feel cheated when their husbands are more aroused by something that is not his wife.



I agree that Tink said things that are not nice. But I do understand her anger, which would be the same as if her husband were having an affair.
So the husband lied, or withheld something vital. The wife doesn't have her ideal marriage. I'm sorry about all that, but coming into this space full of people who've done no harm, and then tossing around these painful, poisonous darts because of anger at an individual, is bad form. And to be frank, I'm a bit tired of reading these hateful barbs in threads where they don't belong. I'm not the only one, either, based on private messages I've received.

Anyone with deeply held anger ought to be working with a couples therapist, or an individual therapist. At the very least, anyone that resentful might consider starting an appropriate thread about the potential damage cross dressing can do to a marriage and vent the anger in the right place (leaving it out of a thread designed to talk about supporting a child).

Because, as I see it, that line about the husband being an ugly, high, horny, mirror-loving prostitute was as much intended at me and every CDer here, and I'm putting my heel down and saying, "That's enough!"