My wife is neither bisexual or gender non-conforming. Actually, I can't see how a person could be bisexual and in a monogamous marriage. To be married, one has to "settle down" to sex with a single partner, whatever gender that partner may be.
Having said that, relationships are complicated. Love has a lot to do with it of course, but there is often a dependency, especially after many years together. How many of us would break up a thirty or forty year marriage and go looking to start dating again?
So in my marriage there are mutually understood boundaries. The neighbors, friends and family cannot know. That's fine with me, I don't want to have to deal with it either.
