Should you tell your wife/girlfriend about your CDing, before devoting yourself?

[mikeyp]

You're young enough to give being open a real good shot. Some suggestions I've heard are to hang out with gay women, and try to get them to invite you along with them when they go out, in hopes of finding a woman who's got a little bi tendencies in her, but maybe doesn't really want a physical female. There in you may find someone who could like a pretty crossdresser. That would have been my choice if I had it when younger. But at this point, I'm just a homely charicature of a crossdresser, so that wouldn't work out well for me. If you can look good, go for it. Be aware, however, that you are forever limiting yourself to about 1% of the female population. Because for most women, a crossdressed male is a sexual turn off. Sure, she MAY tolerate you, but all other things being equal, she will want a non-feminine man as a mate.

Oh, don't get me wrong, I know of this reality. I present as a male 99% of the time and it doesn't really bother me, but I'm willing to make sacrifices in terms of a real relationship. I can't hate women's preferences though. They have a right not to be attracted to a very feminine male, which is okay. I mostly plan to go out as "me" and drop the private crossdressing thing on her a little later in a casual way. You'd by no means think I'm gay in person, but I'm not the most macho guy you've ever met. I guess it wouldn't be too surprising to a female if she found out about this part of me, heh.

I'm just trying to prepare for the day where my CDing becomes more than a 1% of the time thing, which seems to happen for most. Where the CDing becomes more than just a form of intense sexual satisfaction. I loathe that day, and hope to find a woman who might be even a little accepting and understanding of my situation.