You're absolutely correct, and it probably wasn't very nice of me from that standpoint. However, in our defense, there is no absolutely perfect moment and this was about the best we were going to get.
Just to be clear, I wasn't trying to say you weren't being nice. It was the moment you were in and that is just how it played out. I was just pointing out that doing something more geared to him would be a good next step.
The crossdressing community is one that needs to stick together and continue to be there for each other for whatever one needs. We are always trying to improve the forum to better serve the crossdresser in all of us.