Why lie to your SO/wife?

[mechamoose]

It seems it's only the ones who were lucky enough to tell and have the support are the holier than thou's who believe one size fits all, to come out with it regardless of consequences, because they seem to think "I'm alright Jill, as I'm now a special out and loud and proud professional CD'er which automatically gives me higher opinions over those losers still in the closet"..... Um, nah!

Umm, no.

I'm not 'holier than thou', I'm a guy with two marriages under my belt, two poly relationships, several 'open' play partners, and a lot of broken things. I have experienced what will work and what won't. I'm just trying to be pragmatic and honest. This isn't a crusade (although you could rightfully hang that on me for some posts) I'm just trying to be direct. I have had the luxury of being able to be free with myself, and sometimes things -still- broke.

My message is more that 'honesty is the best policy'. If you need to hide that, well.. not much more I can say.

The more of us who were out there and didn't care, the less we would have to be afraid.

As far as the 'new girlfriend' idea.. why are you out in the world presenting as your genetic gender if that isn't who you are?

That is kind of my point.

BE GIRLY if that is who you are. Don't present in a way that is alien to how you feel. You know, wear some pink or purple. Show some 'soft'. Don't win that partner all butched up and then be surprised when they flip about your girl side.

You need to be yourself BEFORE you engage them that way, or else it isn't fair to THEM.

"To thine own self be true"

PM me if you want. This is all true and I stand by it.

- MM