Quote Originally Posted by ReineD View Post
So for those of you who long to be the women you see, it is strictly women that you feel are attractive, or do you think you would have the same longing to look like say, an overweight girl in the library wearing nondescript clothes (baggy jeans and baggy Tshirt) with straggly hair and pimples, or a harried-looking mom who still has quite a gut from childbirth, chasing after her kids, wearing no makeup and a burp-stained baggy sweatshirt with sneakers. I'm creating these specific mental images to make sure that when you read this, you won't have in your mind's eye an attractive girl at the library or a cute young mom. I really would like to compare your reactions to attractive women vs women who are not particularly attractive
Perhaps you might wish to consider how many GG's would envy and like to be that overweight unattractive female? would you? If not, what makes you wonder why any crossdresser/TG/TS person would? When I was single, I had a 'girly' calender with pictures of Paulina Poriskova on it; after my ex discovered my crossdressing, and assumed that I was TS, part of her way of insisting that was, to point to that calender and ask 'If you could, would you switch places with her?' My answer was, 'Wouldn't you? Why wouldn't anyone want to be rich and be one of the most beautiful people on the planet?' To which she instantly responded, 'That's different. There, that's what I mean. A normal man would never want to be a girl of any kind'. My answer to that was, 'Well, you only offered me that choice, or remain me. You didn't offer me the opportunity to look like any famous good looking males. So, why not?'. And then of course the discussion deteriorated.

When we talk to people of one gender who wish the type of life that someone in particular of the opposite gender has, no one wishes for the worst part of that person's life. Anyone want to be the girl in India who was beaten because she was a rape victim? Anyone wish to be a woman who was in a fire and has all kinds of burn scars? How about the FTM's, any of them wish to have the life of a soldier who's genitals and legs have been blown off in an explosion? Or want to have the life of a male leper? Or do they ever wish to be a scrawny, short, ugly, physically weak man ? I'm guessing probably not; but I'm also guessing you'd never consider asking any FTM person that question, either.

All these ideas of trying to corner us into admitting that we somehow just want to be girls because we only want the 'fun' side of female life, and don't want the hard part of male life, is cruel. I'm sure there are a few, but most of us haven't chosen to want to be females. Life is hard enough without all the difficulties involved in this. As Louis CK says, being a male, especially a white male, is still a pretty good deal. Throwing a wrench into the works by introducing the desire to dress and behave like a female is not doing us any favors. So, yes, when I think of being a female, of course I think of being an attractive one. I have pondered at times whether life would have been better as a female, not having to deal with all the problems that I face with all this crossdressing desires, and the TG feelings that come and go; so yes, I could deal with being an average looking woman, mostly because I know that being an average woman in the U.S. is still a pretty good deal, and also that most average women who are unhappy with their circumstances usually are so because they were brought up to believe that they were going to 'get' a better deal in life than they wound up with; the whole 'you're a princess and you should never settle' concept.

I'm not a prince and have no delusions of being a princess, either. I could have been happy being an average guy OR girl. But I didn't get either of those options, either.