Gendermutt,
I fully understand what Zooey says about the turmoil she's in and the way it's affected her close friends and family, My age is double edged I feel I'm too old to go through what she describes, if I'd been younger and fully understood what was going on in my mind I may have realised what I needed to consider doing to take away the feelings I had .
I may have gone down that road if I had separated from my wife, as it was I began to plan how I would make a life around dressing full time, as I said at the time I accepted a difficult compromise to keep a large part of my life intact. Maybe that comes down to different personalities , forty years is a big chunk of my life, would it have been a selfless act or a selfish one ? It's quite a gamble to discover that one out !
