Becky,
How quick you were to lump gender identity an sexual preference together (they are separate and unrelated) and you twice state denial and deep denial in your choices. how did you come to learn of this denial condition?
Zooey,
Which space would you feel entitle to use if you look like a man but are really a woman and there is no concern for your safety? Both spaces are guaranteed safe and equally clean, but you would be open to ridicule and you can be approached about why you are in that space? when you enter that space everyone will know that you are not presenting for the space you are in.

could a CD here question why you feel entitled to enter this part of cyberspace when you don't meet the stated criteria? Now of course we do welcome all here so that isn't a problem.